I've always wondered why no matter how hard I tried I could never fit in. I could never be part of a group. It used to make me really depressed and i thought i didn't belong anywhere. But as i got older I've learned to embrace this difference in myself from others. This was when i realized i was a deviant.
Deviance is breaking or refusing to follow a social rule. The rule can be society wide or specific to a particular group or situation. And a deviant is someone who has qualities of deviance. This was the reason i could never fit into a group. Because i was trying to fit into societies norms which i subconsciously rejected. I wanted to fit in but i didn't want to conform. I have a huge tendency to break social rules. I hate the feeling of being confined. By anyone or anything. Being a clone you know, just like everyone else. I sometimes feel that i must break social rules just to prove that i am not like everyone else. I'm different. I am Fayne Shepherd and there is no one like me.
One huge way i display that is my appearance. Having long hair is one example. It symbolizes taking a stand against corporate society because the norms say that having short hair is what is acceptable. Also my entire wardrobe consists of all black clothes. Black also being a symbol of rebelling to society and not conforming to its norms. Also i always speak exactly what i think. In normal society you are supposed to filter and censor certain things but my brain doesn't work that way. If i want to say it then it gets said and I'll think about it later maybe. Most people cannot handle how truthful I am and how I'm not afraid to say exactly how i feel.
I just hate that deviance has to be seen as a negative thing. The word itself sounds negative. I find friends in "Deviant" people because these are the more interesting people of the world. Why would anyone want friends who are clones of everyone else? It is the deviant people of the world who are the people who can bring spice to your life and make you see it in a different light.
i like the way you think Fayne. Not everyone speaks whats on their mind and be straight forward with other people. In this soceity is always hard to avoid being judged because theres always that one person that will criticize what you do and say. I agree with you whith "deviant" people are better to be around because it brings more fun in life and brings you into new experiences and sometimes learn from them.
ReplyDeleteI found the "having short hair" as acceptable in society funny because I keep hearing that from my parents and its just silly to me. I've heard that concept being used many times, but seriously what does your hair length have to do with anything. Same thing with tattoos and piercings. Someone who's a biker and has many tattoos may be a surgical doctor during work hours and you would misjudge him cause you didn't know better.
ReplyDeleteI found that while reading your blog that I could relate to it on how you said that you did not like to feel confined by anyone or anything. That is how I also like to live my life, free with no limits, no nothing. And I have to agree with you that, people labeled "deviant" tend to be way more interesting and fun to talk to, than those who follow all the "norms".
ReplyDeleteIt is true what you are saying about deviance that in order to be considered not deviant you have to follow the norms and that can definitely in some ways strangle a persons personality and seem to make a person rather then his own unique entity he is being forced to be exactly like everyone else. By doing this you also feel like you lose your freedom of choice because it is not really a choice to either be accepted or do what you want,it is more like a ultimatum. However the consequences of deviance depends on what you are deviant by. If it is something minor you may not even experience any visible repercussions whereas the violation of other norms can ruin a persons reputation.
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